And Other Helpful Temple Information
The Temple staff is delighted to help you plan your upcoming Bar/Bat Mitzvah. Understanding the policies in advance and adhering to them will make everything run more smoothly. Close communication with the Executive Director is essential. The word “family” refers to the parents or responsible parties of Bar/Bat Mitzvah candidates.
1. To confirm a Bar/Bat Mitzvah date, the family must be members in good standing. All dues, fees and assessments are due and payable 60 days before the ceremony.
2. Temple encourages all families to host their celebrations at Temple. As the Temple calendar can become very busy, we encourage you to meet with the Executive Director six months before the event. Many important aspects of the weekend simcha will be discussed: budget, invitations, handouts, time lines, entertainment, rental fees, caterers, florists and photographers, dishes, flatware and glasses. Advanced planning can alleviate anxiety and address individual concerns.
3. When Temple is the site of any portion of your celebration, all caterers, orchestras and florists are required to provide Certificates of Insurance covering Workmen’s Compensation, Bodily Injury and Property Damage Liability Insurance. Caterers are also required to supply Food and Products Liability Insurance and a Health Department number. Caterers must abide by Temple’s policies and procedures. While we do not endorse specific vendors we encourage families to support vendors who support Temple by advertising in our Yearbook.
4. Temple custodial staff must be present at all functions. Custodial staff will be the first to arrive and the last to leave the Temple. Custodial staff does not assist with the serving of food or drink, or bus tables. Their function is to arrange the Temple’s tables and chairs and to oversee the operation of the dishwasher. Setting up rental equipment is the responsibility of the caterer.
5. We encourage the Bar/Bat Mitzvah family to sponsor the Oneg Shabbat, which is held after services on Friday evening. You may choose to ask Temple Sisterhood or a private caterer to prepare the Oneg.
6. On Shabbat morning, the family is expected to provide one whole challah and three sliced challot, 4 bottles of kosher wine and two bottles of white grape juice for the entire congregation to enjoy.
7. We encourage families to provide a simple Kiddush luncheon to which the entire congregation is invited following the Shabbat morning service.
8. No pork products or shellfish may be served at the Temple. In addition, no meat and dairy products may be served on the same platter or dish.
9. Payment of 50% room rental fees secures the room reservation. Balance of all fees is due 60 days before the scheduled event.
10. A silk floral arrangement for the bimah is available at no charge. Some families choose to have fresh flowers, a FANN basket or another bimah arrangement based on the family tzedek project.
11. ABSOLUTELY NO PHOTOGRAPHS may be taken at any time during the services. It is the responsibility of the PARENTS of the Bar/Bat Mitzvah student to inform family members and the photographer of the Temple policy. Families may schedule photos before services on Friday evening or Saturday morning. The Clergy are available for photographs on Saturday mornings prior to the service.
12. If you wish to have the service recorded arrangements can be made with the Temple Brotherhood.
13. We ask the Bar/Bat Mitzvah family to ask two family members or friends to serve as ushers for the Friday evening service and Shabbat morning service.
14. Only Temple Clergy, or their designates, may officiate at religious ceremonies.
15. It is customary to invite the Clergy and their families, the president of the Congregation, the Bar/Bat Mitzvah student’s teachers and the entire class to the ceremony.
16. Sisterhood’s Judaica shop, Judaica Treasures is available to supply gifts and special orders for the occasion. Some families choose to provide kippot (skull caps). This is optional as Temple custom does not require wearing a kippah.
17. The family has the opportunity to ask a member of Temple’s Board of Trustees with whom they have a relationship to present gifts to the Bar/Bat Mitzvah on behalf of Temple, Brotherhood and Sisterhood. We are happy to assist you in selecting a Board presenter if you do not have a preference.
18. The honors sheet contains information crucial to the weekend. Please return the sheet no later than four weeks prior to your celebration.